I've had writer's block for so many years I can't remember when it began. Sometimes I think it's the medication. But if I want to be truly honest, I've been running from myself for over 6 years. It started when I came back to the US from Jamaica. Well, maybe a little later...when I gave up on what little hope I had left of making the world a better place, and became more concerned with being a wife and mother. Not that being a mother isn't the greatest thing that's ever happened to me, but I used it as a cop-out to give up on my dreams. I used it as a big comfy blanket to hide under and muffle the sound of my own heart and mind.
Tonight I find myself completely alone in the house I've shared with my husband for six years. Six long, trying years where I've suffocated within an inch of my life...almost quite literally. And here I sit, writing. And not some bullshit list about who I think I am or who I would like to be (like the last few posts made over a year ago). No structured writing prompt to hide behind. Just, writing.
I don't blame him for my writer's block. Someone can't make you forget who you are...they can only make the Kool-Aid and its up to you to drink it. I guess I didn't want to be alone anymore. Or maybe I wanted to be someone else...normal, whatever that means. A wife and a mother with the white fence and minivan (I'm stuck with the minivan unfortunately). No one told me how hard it is to be normal when you aren't.
I loved him. He was tall, dark, and handsome from an exotic land which I thought made my choice unique and therefore fitting of someone "alternative" such as myself. I placed my bets on love conquering all and believe that if I just loved him hard enough everything would work out. But I thought he would love me just as hard. And I was mistaken. So I took all my love and I put it into someone who gave me diminishing returns on it, and not to be clique but now I'm broke...well really broken is more how I feel.
Tonight I'm cold and alone without my big comfy blanket of fear and complacency. It's very unsettling to say fuck you to normality. Then you actually have to figure out who you are. More than the exponential amount of stress I will take on caring for the kids and paying the bills, cleaning up after the mess I've made of myself will be the hardest task to take on. Do I remember who that was? How does that person need to be tweaked now that I'm a mother? How do I make sure this never happens again?
I don't know. I'm just happy my writer's block is going away.